30 Days of Kink, Day 13

Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?

It lets me experience things that mainstream/vanilla society doesn't understand and won't even try to.


Daily societal requirements require that we keep ourselves firmly in control at all times. It tries to both hypersexualize and desexualize people at the same time, which is incredibly unhealthy and a broken concept. Being in a kink and bdsm situation allows us to decompress and find the happy medium.


Hypnosis, especially d/s hypnosis, gives me the opportunity to let go and relax, letting someone else take the reigns for a little while. I can simply relax and obey. And with my foot fetish, my partner is made more human. We're allowed to be as sexual as we're comfortable being. I can experience her both as an object of desire and as an equal (or again as a dominant) and we can connect as human beings through touch.